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Date : May 28, 2016Comments : 0

win the battle in your mind by FIGHTING BACK!

Battle of Mind got its name from the fact to heal from depression/anxiety and other common mental health conditions such as low confidence and self worth there is a need to ‘fight back’ from the perception you have and the feelings you get from the opinions and comments of others. When I had depression I felt very heavy, low energy to do anything and always quite sleepy but I knew if I gave in to these feelings I would not change and improve my life so I got up, I started exercising via the wii, getting myself in shape and educating myself by learning a new language and how to code websites and improve my skills in the Adobe suite…at times it was incredibly hard to be motivated but I had to keep fighting and it was a battle of self-defeating inner monologues and thoughts between ‘what is the point’ to ‘I will never be able to do it’ to ‘I just give up’. I changed these thoughts to things that I could fight back against by talking to myself positively like ‘I will change my life’ , ‘I will do whatever it takes’, ‘I will life a fulfulling life’, ‘I will train myself to become a better version of myself’.

Sometimes, the fight I didn’t always win and sometime the negative inner talk and feelings would win and so I had to take a day off and at times, that made me feel guilty but as long as you dont keep giving up or resting and try again another day you too CAN fight back against your illness, even with the help of medication, therapists and life coaches it is compltely possible to alter your fortunes but YOU MUST PUT THE EFFORT IN TO BE ABLE TO MAKE YOUR LIFE WHAT YOU EXPECT/ED.

Win the battle of mind

This video may help you feel the urge to fight back against your poor health conditions and unfortunate circumstances too. Realise, the first step to changing your life starts with your commitment to ‘fight back’, the battle of mind CAN and WILL be won when you take the first step forward! Win the battle of mind by choosing to fight back! Please feel free to comment below.

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Life Experience

Date : May 26, 2016Comments : 0

11 – “This time I won, I yelled the loudest” – Won The Battle – Robert Cray

Last week (16-22 May 2016) was Mental Health Awareness week. Through seeing my blog on Twitter, I was approached by Aron Bennett who hopes to compile a book to raise awareness of Mental Health. He asked people to write a diary entry for the date 16th May, no more than 750 words, to be included in the publication “A Day In My Head”. Money will be raised for several charities from the sale of the book.

Aron has given me permission to share my day with you also…..

Having watched the clock throughout another night of insomnia and screaming demons, when it finally hits 0645 and the house starts to stir, I’m ready to pull the duvet over my head and hide from the world. With two children dependent on me though, I stick my “Mummy” face on and begin the morning routine of breakfast, school uniform and packed lunch. My eldest is out the door in a loud whirlwind by 0830, leaving behind myself, my Husband and my youngest who is severely disabled and requires 24/7 care.

During the early days of my little lady’s life she needed a blood transfusion, and today I am going to finally repay the kindness of a stranger by giving blood for the first time. For years my darkness has stopped me from doing things I’ve wanted to but today I am determined to fight through my depression and the anxiety that comes along with it, in order to give blood for the first time. There’s time for a cuppa first though, and a catch up of EastEnders. A little bit of Danny Dyer to calm the nerves.

As I drive to the Football Ground where the blood donor session is being held, my heart is racing and my head is all over the place. The thought of being in a room with lots of people freaks me out, the need to be chatty, smiley and “normal” is a huge pressure and not being able to walk out whenever I need to scares me. I don’t even give a second thought to the needle or the usual worries my Husband is experiencing.

We arrive a few minutes early and as we walk to the room, I concentrate on calm breathing and trying to fight every bit of me which is telling me to walk in the other direction. The session is busy, people are coming and going and I avoid making eye contact as much as possible. The waiting area is too small for my daughter’s wheelchair, so we are allowed to wait outside in the hall; it’s quieter and calmer and gives me the opportunity to focus my thoughts on anything other than being where I am.

An hour later and the process is all over, I have officially donated my first 475mls of blood and managed not to have a panic attack! High five me!

Walking out into the fresh air again, the sun is shining and for the first time in a long time I can feel its warmth. The sky is blue and the world isn’t intimidating. As I drive back home, I’m feeling something I haven’t for many weeks – I think it might be happiness.

The rest of the afternoon passes in a haze of light, which after months of darkness is a welcome relief. My eldest comes home from school, full of tales about her day and I am able to enjoy her stories instead of not being able to concentrate as is usually the way. My youngest has a fun physio session which I actively participate in with her, rather than sitting in another room feeling like a useless Mother and wondering what the point in my existence is if I can’t even find the strength to help her.

Tea time rolls round and instead of asking the Husband to cook something because I don’t feel able to, I’m in the kitchen. My eldest daughter comments on the fact that Mummy is making dinner tonight.

After everyone has eaten, I head to the bedroom for some “me” time with my Kindle. It’s been a long day and as always I’ve had to do it on barely any sleep. The more tired I get, the louder the demons are and I’m starting to feel very low again. They never allow me to enjoy the air for long; always ready to pounce on the slightest little dip I have and turn everything black again. I think today though they’re just angry because I fought back and if only for a few hours, I was in control.

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Counselling The Well

Counselling The Well

When it comes to going to the dentist, many people book six monthly or annual appointments to give their teeth a ‘check up’, even when they are not in pain or needing any major treatment.  This touching base, to catch any problems in the early stages, is widely accepted to be a good idea and is indeed recommended by dentists here in the U.K.  Similarly your car, if you have one, will need to have a regular inspection and be fine tuned to make sure that it is running safely and efficiently.  Most people would not question the logic behind such checks, which are  designed to identify problem areas before they are in need of serious attention.

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Life Experience,Motivation

Date : May 21, 2016Comments : 0

Take the 30 day challenge to change your life

One of the reasons we can become depressed is because we get into negative routines and habits. One great way to break these habits is by consciously setting ourselves challenges. These challenges don’t have to be very big ( they can be if you like though! ), they can be small things that you have wanted to do but just haven’t found the inclination to start and needed some reason or motive to get you started. Well…here is your chance, take the 30-day challenge to change your life…

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Date : May 11, 2016Comments : 0

10 – “’Cause you don’t understand me, my feelings” – You Don’t Understand Me – Roxette

I received a lot of positive feedback to my last blog post about how my depression affects my relationship with my Husband. It was interesting to read messages from people who hadn’t considered how my marriage would be affected, and from others who could see both sides of the situation. It was also great for my long suffering Hubby to be able to see he’s not alone in having to put up with all he does. Thank you to all who contacted us both. I was, however, surprised by the number of comments which went along the lines of “I didn’t know being sad would have such an impact on those around you”. Depression isn’t just being sad, it goes so much deeper than that.

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