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Life Experience,Motivation,Self Esteem

Date : March 27, 2017Comments : 0

What Would Steve Jobs Do? How to Recover as an Entrepreneur After a Setback

Here’s a story for anyone currently facing a difficult time on the journey to career success. The year was 1985. A young business man was fired from his job at a computer company in California. He had no college degree and had just barely turned 30 years old. His mind was full of innovative ideas, but he was told he was too reckless to ever run his own business.

That man was Steve Jobs.

Of course, you don’t need me to tell you that Steve Jobs eventually recovered from his devastating career setback. As we all know, he later went on to become one of the most successful entrepreneurs of all time. Continue reading “What Would Steve Jobs Do? How to Recover as an Entrepreneur After a Setback”

I just want to live, a leaf representing hope

Depression,Life Experience

Date : March 5, 2017Comments : 0

21 – “I just want to live while I’m alive” – My Life – Bon Jovi

I can’t believe we’re almost at the end of February already. It doesn’t seem very long ago at all that we were all caught up in the chaos of Christmas and I was wondering how I was going to keep the smile believable throughout it all.

New year was difficult

New Year was a difficult time personally, I found it very hard to be around all the positives of people making New Year’s Resolutions to improve their lives or achieve more in 2017. All I wanted was to wake up and have the darkness gone, to be free from the cloud that hung over my head like the rain clouds in cartoons which pour down on one character, while the rest of the world is in glorious sunshine. It goes without saying that 1st January 2017 started just the same as 31st December 2016 ended, the depression didn’t magically disappear just because the date changed. Continue reading “21 – “I just want to live while I’m alive” – My Life – Bon Jovi”

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Valentines’ Day – Love and Relationships

Valentine’s Day is here once more, and the shops are filled with red roses, bottles of fine wine and cards galore to help us say ‘I love you’ to that special someone.  For those already in a relationship, it is an opportunity to reaffirm feelings for a partner, while others may end their Valentine’s card with a cryptic ‘Love, ??? xxx’, possibly hoping that their affections will be discovered by the recipient.

Quality of Connection

Whatever your relationship status, whether you are happily paired, taking a break from being with another or getting over a painful breakup, the subject of love may well stir powerful emotions from either the past or present.  In the counselling room, sometimes clients speak about their relationships with significant others, and most often what stands out to me is not the physical attraction of one person to another, but the quality of the connection between the two halves of the partnership.

Like ‘This’ or ‘That’

In my experience as a therapist, often clients come with complaints about their partner’s behaviour or attitude, wanting to change them so that they are not like ‘this’ or ‘that’.  Clients sometimes feel that they are not being treated very well or being given the affection they deserve.  (In relationships where domestic abuse is a feature, this can very much be the case, but it is not these types of abusive relationships I wish to make comment on here.)

Influence Over Their Own Behaviour

When we examine what the client has influence over in the relationship – what they have the power to change – we find that they cannot one iota change their partner’s behaviour or way of doing things.  The client only has influence over their own behaviour and attitude.  Once this is agreed upon and accepted, work can begin on examining the client’s response to their partner’s way of being.  Several times I have worked with clients who have decided to redouble their efforts at loving their other half (in a practical, everyday kind of way), while maintaining firm boundaries to do with what they find acceptable in the relationship and what they do not.  This ‘carrot rather than stick’ approach often yields better results in terms of improving the quality of the connection between two people than a list of demands presented to the offending partner.

The more I work with those struggling with relationship issues, the more I feel that the key to a successful long term alliance has more to do with giving than getting.  What could you do this Valentine’s Day to show that someone special how you feel?

 ~ Rob Oglesby MBACP B.A. (Hons) BSc | Ashwood Therapy

[Ashwood Therapy provides a discreet, confidential and professional online counselling service by encrypted video call, live instant messaging and secure email.  More details, including tips on wellbeing and information on current counselling session pricing, can be found at www.ashwoodtherapy.com]

mental health video inspiration

Motivation,Suicidal,Video

Date : March 2, 2017Comments : 0

Your life isn’t over (inspirational video)

Many of us struggle with some kind of affliction whether losing self-confidence, having addictions,  depression, anxiety, a whole host of personal problems and sometimes it can feel like we can’t go on anymore. Life DOES go on when you get through the pain and hurt you feel from your problems and it can in fact. make you a stronger person for it. In this short video it explores that even though you may be feeling like ‘giving up’ , don’t! This is the storm before the calm, seek help, there are many people who want to help you turn your life around. I hope the video resonates with you.

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