Patience. When I was younger, my mom always taught me the importance of being patient. Anytime I really wanted something, wanted to go somewhere, or even wanted to leave somewhere, my mom was always stressing the importance of waiting and not rushing things.
I’ve learned that patience isn’t just important in terms of waiting to get something you really want like a present for Christmas or going somewhere like the store. I’ve learned that patience is also essential when it comes to coping with the fact that you struggle with a mental health issue.
The fact that it usually takes a long time to get through anxiety and other mental health issues is not always an easy one to accept. As humans in a fast-paced world, we often find ourselves wanting a quick fix. Unfortunately, we often find that it isn’t possible to just snap our fingers or click our heals and find ourselves free from our obstacles. We have to be patient and learn that with time and consistency, we will get through our struggles.
Now don’t get me wrong, while we need to understand that patience is often required for a proper recovery from mental health issues, we also need to understand that patience is not an excuse for not working every day to reach our goals. For example, saying that we don’t need to work as hard because getting through our issues takes time, is not the answer. We have to still try our hardest to get through our anxiety and other issues, but we also have to understand that it’s normal for healing to take time.
In addition to us needing to learn to not be so hard on ourselves and learn to have patience, we also have to realize that not everyone will be patient with us. In fact, we may discover that the very same people that once taught us to be patient, don’t consider this concept when it comes to understanding our struggle with mental health issues. Why is this? This is most likely due to the fact that oftentimes, when people don’t go through the same thing as someone else, they tend to forget that we all have our unique issues and struggles.
So, what do we do when someone we love gets angry with us because we still deal with mental health issues? We remind them that we are trying our hardest and that we are making progress. If that’s true then we shouldn’t be concerned with what they say. I know this isn’t always easy, but we cannot always please everyone. What’s important is that we put effort into improving our lives.