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Healing,Life Experience,Motivation,Relationships

Date : March 5, 2017Comments : 0

Valentines’ Day – Love and Relationships

Valentine’s Day is here once more, and the shops are filled with red roses, bottles of fine wine and cards galore to help us say ‘I love you’ to that special someone.  For those already in a relationship, it is an opportunity to reaffirm feelings for a partner, while others may end their Valentine’s card with a cryptic ‘Love, ??? xxx’, possibly hoping that their affections will be discovered by the recipient.

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What's Your Story?

What’s Your Story?

Some time ago I was fortunate to be able to attend a professional development workshop run by Professor Jeffrey Kottler, an academic visiting the U.K. from California State University on the west coast of the U.S.  Professor Kottler, an experienced therapist and educator of the next generation of counsellors in the States had a take on the therapeutic process that immediately rang true with me even though I had not up to that point devoted much thought to it.  Our lives, Kottler stated, are our stories.  Continue reading “What’s Your Story?”

Middle Age

Life Experience,Motivation,Relationships,therapy

Date : October 5, 2016Comments : 0

Middle Age: Looking Forward at 45

As more and more people turn to therapy to help them make sense of their own personal life journey, the issues around life stage changes often crop up in the counselling room. We are all generally living longer, not necessarily keeping the same partner for life and are reassessing what it means to live in today’s busy world.

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Alt Therapy,Depression,Healing,Relationships

Date : August 14, 2016Comments : 0

10 ways to improve your mental health and relationship with social media

We can’t ignore it, social media is HUGE for our generation.

It has infiltrated every aspect of our lives so vastly that it is difficult not to be a part of it even if you don’t really want to be. It could be said that it has almost made the telephone redundant as people begin to stay in touch and discover what loved ones are doing via Facebook or catch up with an old friend who lives on the other side of the world via Skype or discover the latest sports news before it even hits the newspapers. Social media has made us all more connected to each other but that can have it’s downsides.In this blog post we discuss ten things that we should keep in mind to keep our digital social life healthy.

In this blog post we discuss ten things that we should keep in mind to keep our digital social life positive and healthy.

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Social Media: False Friend?

You may be familiar with the phrase ‘Dunbar’s Number’, named after the anthropologist Robin Dunbar and coined in the 1990s.  Dunbar’s number refers to the probable limit to the number of social relationships a person can maintain effectively at one time, and is an interesting concept in the Internet age where many people’s  online ‘friends lists’ can number in the high hundreds.  What would you think Dunbar’s studies into human brain size and social grouping revealed to be the approximate maximum number of sustainable social connections?  300?  500?  Maybe 900?

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Online Therapy

Healing,Motivation,Psychology,Relationships,Video

Date : June 25, 2016Comments : 0

The Power of Online Therapy

With more and more of our lives being conducted online, the Internet is becoming the medium of choice for people seeking support for their mental wellbeing through therapeutic counselling.  Is online therapy the same as face to face therapy?

Trust

The research literature in the field of online counselling points to one particular feature of e-therapy that helps many open up about their issues: the online disinhibition effect.  Put simply, when in an online relationship clients seem to share what is going on in their lives more readily than they would in person.  As a counselling therapist, I am aware that people in general find it easier to open up to a counsellor than they do a friend of family member.  The professional boundaries and assurance of confidentiality create an atmosphere conducive to disclosure and trust.  When working online, this trust is enhanced, perhaps by the physical distance between client and therapist, and the process of disclosure is often speeded up.

Reviewing The Work Done

Working with a client on things that trouble them, or that they would like to overcome, is therefore moved along more quickly online, and relational depth is achieved more readily.  To me, this is the real power of online therapy.  Another helpful aspect of working either by secure email or instant messaging (text), is that the client has the option of keeping a record of what was discussed during the session to refer back to later.  Coping strategies and new perspectives can therefore be reviewed and consolidated, both between sessions and once therapy has been drawn to a close.

The Online Age

Having worked as both a face to face therapist and an online counsellor, I feel that the work of a psychological practitioner fits very well with the benefits brought by the Online Age.  Communication, the foundation of all human relationships, is a fundamental part of the connected world and makes therapy and the Internet ideal bedfellows.  If the real agent of lasting change is the therapeutic relationship, I believe that the opportunities for distance working with clients regardless of physical location is truly the start of a revolution in the way we approach the looking after of our wellbeing.

~ Rob Oglesby MBACP B.A. (Hons) BSc | Ashwood Therapy

 

[Ashwood Therapy provides a discreet, confidential and professional online counselling service by encrypted video call, live instant messaging and secure email.  More details, including tips on wellbeing and information on current counselling session pricing, can be found at http://www.ashwoodtherapy.com/]