Hi everyone, this is John the founder and the person who seems like he has healed completely from his mental health problems of the past and most of the time I feel relatively normal but sometimes I do have my down days and I begin to feel depressed and heavy hearted. I start seeing the negative aspects of my life becoming to the forefront of my mind, I feel myself feeling heavier in my sofa and I think of the future with not much hope of achieving what I dream of of being a normal life. When I feel like this I need to snap myself out of it and I have succeeded in this many times and want to share my strategy with you. In this blog post I discuss several ways to help pull yourself out of the black hole before you sink too deep.
1. Force yourself to do something you enjoy
When you are depressed it is really hard to find the will to do anything. You sit on your sofa, maybe with your television on and stare blankly at it not really taking any of the information in feeling like there is an invisible force pushing you down so you can’t move. When this happens you have to find your inner strength to do something you know you enjoy whether playing a video game, painting a picture, listening to music, watching a movie that lifts you up, going for a walk, whatever it is, you need to push against the heavy weight and lift yourself up in a constructive way.
2. Push yourself to see the things you do have
It is very easy to see the things you don’t have, we are born wanting more and it can be what drives us to get more and work harder so that we can achieve that level of comfort but when it seems totally out of reach the feelings of sadness and a heavy depression set in.
Getting past what you don’t have and focusing on what you do have is an important aspect to lift yourself out of depression when you feel down. I am often thankful for having a loving family, a great wife, a job where I can be creative and a roof over my head the things you have to be thankful for may be different. It is hard to realise but there are people worse off than you in your current situation no matter how or where you expected yourself to be at the age you are now and that is important to remember, even though when you are depressed it can be hard to comprehend.
3. Stop being hard on yourself and relax
Being hard on yourself because you haven’t achieved what you expected even after trying really hard to do something good with your life can be very hard to live with but by beating yourself up you are only going to carry on having more of the same. You need to stop blaming yourself for situations that may have been out of your control or for mistakes you have made in your past and realise how much you have achieved already. Start seeing what you have done rather than what you haven’t. See the fact you have made progress in some aspects of your life even if you haven’t reached your dream goal.
4. Realise that everything is temporary
Being happy is temporary. The feeling of happiness does not last forever and neither does the feeling of depression even though you may be depressed for several days, weeks or months at a time. Realising that this too shall pass and the sun will come out again for you can be uplifting whilst trying to remain optimistic for the future and still thinking about your dreams and goals can lift you from the place of sadness you once where in to fighting for something worth fighting for.
5. Tell yourself positive thoughts
Lastly, but not least is the power of positive thoughts. When depressed you start thinking negatively, talking negatively and it only implodes the feeling of total sadness in your being. Telling yourself positive things even when you are not truly feeling that way can lift your mood.
Don’t forget to smile
Even when you don’t feel like it, even when you are struggling to find the courage to smile, do your best to do it, even if it’s fake. It has been scientifically proven that if you smile for longer than a minute it is almost impossible to feel low.
Not every day will be a good day when you start overcoming depression and there will be times you feel really low. It is important to try and lift your spirits in order for you to keep on moving forward. If you don’t fight your depression you will continue to feel sad and if anything, you will get deeper and deeper into your black hole.
What are your tips to help with picking yourself up when you have a down day during a depressive episode? Please comment below