We can’t ignore it, social media is HUGE for our generation.
It has infiltrated every aspect of our lives so vastly that it is difficult not to be a part of it even if you don’t really want to be. It could be said that it has almost made the telephone redundant as people begin to stay in touch and discover what loved ones are doing via Facebook or catch up with an old friend who lives on the other side of the world via Skype or discover the latest sports news before it even hits the newspapers. Social media has made us all more connected to each other but that can have it’s downsides.In this blog post we discuss ten things that we should keep in mind to keep our digital social life healthy.
In this blog post we discuss ten things that we should keep in mind to keep our digital social life positive and healthy.
1. How many followers/friends you have do not equal popularity or how successful you are
A lot of people equate having lots of followers/friends/likes/retweets/favourites as the symbol of social success but what is the point in amassing that many digital friends?
Few of them you truly know and in fact, it is almost impossible for a human being to know more than 150 people (as Rob from Ashwood Therapy discussed in his latest article ‘false friends‘) so we must stop worrying how many people we ‘know’ or ‘don’t’ know and instead focus on connecting to the people that matter most to us which, for most of us, is our family…the most successful people are not the ones that have lots of friends but those who can define just a few people to spend their time with.
It is often suggested that the most successful people are not the ones that have lots of friends but those who can define themselves by not needing the acceptance of others and holding just a few friends and close ones.
2. Remember, people only post their best photos of their life
Secondly, how often do you trail through Instagram looking at perfect abs, people having fun at a party or doing some amazing extreme sport? What you must remember is no one posts pictures of themselves when they just get out of bed or having a really down day…those days get edited out so all you see on people’s social feed is their ‘happy’ times. It is
What you must remember is no one posts pictures of themselves when they just get out of bed or having a really down day…those days get edited out so all you see on people’s social feed is their ‘happy’ times.
It is almost impossible to always have a happy time in life, in fact, if all the time was happy there would be no happy, things would be a lot more grey than the colours of life that ups and downs bring! Unfortunately, although we like not to have them, we all need the bad times in life in order to appreciate the good times. Just remember next time you see someone you think is doing a lot better than you just remember, you aren’t seeing the whole picture but also learn to be happy for those people that are sharing their happy time with you to view.
3. Connect with people and business that make you feel good
Next on the list is to consider who you are connecting with via social media.
If you are following Facebook pages that are often angering you because of injustice or bullying, trolling or bringing up any negative emotion, simply…’unlike’ them.
Detox the negativity from your social profile.
Follow only people that spread positivity, bring a smile to your face or make you feel good and nothing that brings you or others down.
4. Do not compare your life
NEVER compare your life to somebody else.
You simply can’t do this and maintain a sense of peace in your life.
Social media has made it evident that many of us are not born equal and we are not given equal chances…whether from country to country or region to region.
The sense of injustice may be high but you must accept the cards that we have been dealt with and be appreciative for the little things that you have that many others don’t.
In fact, the power of gratitude can completely change your perspective on life and help you realise, you don’t need to be like somebody else or have the same material wealth as others to be content and happy, what matters most is that you are who you are, able to express yourself and realise comparing yourself to someone who has had different luck, born into a wealthy family orgiven opportunity and birth rights that you may not have had is destructive for your mental health and happiness.
5. Ignore the conspiracy theorists
There are many conspiracy theorists out there, some may be true, but mostly are probably not. When you feel a sense of injustice in your own life it is quite easy to pick these up and start believing them making your world appear darker than it actually is. Although some conspiracy theories may be correct if there is nothing we can do about it at this stage of our lives we should choose to ignore it for the benefit of our mental health. So if you follow any
Although some conspiracy theories may be correct if there is nothing we can do about it at this stage of our lives we should choose to ignore it for the benefit of our mental health. So if you follow any
So, if you follow any conspiracy theorist pages or accounts I would recommend unfollowing them asap.
6. Turn notifications off from people who annoy you
When we make friends with others on Facebook we often don’t always have the same opinions.
Our political opinions can be different, our humour, our views on the world and so when our news feed starts to get filled up with things that upset us it affects our mental health. To stop this you can turn off notifications from particular users and stop their posts appearing in your feed, decluttering your information intake without insulting anyone.
To stop this you can turn off notifications from particular users and stop their posts appearing in your feed, decluttering your information intake without insulting anyone.
7. Reduce automated notifications
Is your phone constantly beeping with new messages and notifications…Simon Cowell just tweeted…followed by Katy perry just posted a photo to Facebook just two minutes later? Constantly looking at your phone is distracting you from living in the moment and giving yourself complete attention to the task at hand. Look at your social accounts and try to find ways of reducing
Constantly looking at your phone is distracting you from living in the moment and giving yourself complete attention to the task at hand. Look at your social accounts and try to find ways of reducing
Look at your social accounts and try to find ways of reducing notifications from your smart phone …now that would be a smart move for your mental health!
8. Leave your mobile in another room before bed
Do you look at your social media accounts before you sleep and as you wake up in the morning?
I know I have been a victim of this…
it can be really detrimental to the overall well-being as you are not letting your brain relax before settling for sleep or wake up slowly.
Sleep, is probably one of the most important things we do to maintain good mental (Healing from depressionsee this blog post about sleeping)and emotional health and if you sleep with your smartphone next to your bed you can be sent many notifications and although you may not wake up, your sleep will be disturbed and stop you getting a completely full rest.
To combat these two issues think about either putting your phone on aeroplane mode or placing your phone in another room for charge to get the ultimate nights rest.
9. Use social media to express yourself
Social media does get a bad rep, sometimes rightly but social media can be a force for lots of good (hey I bet you are reading this blog from a social media channel right?).
Like all things there is something good and bad about social media and social media channels can connect you to like-minded people who may appreciate your thoughts and interests. Knowing there are others that think similarly to you and enjoy the same things can give you a bit of a boost and motivation in following your passions and dreams so whatever it is you like doing don’t be afraid to share it with the world, 90% of people will respond positively.
If people are negative just let it go over your head and move on, keep following your dreams and hobbies, it can be fantastic for your self-esteem and feelings of contentment in your life.
10. Have a day of digital detox each month
Lastly, have you ever considered a digital detox? I once had a whole week of not using Facebook to see if I would miss it and surprisingly, I was a lot more productive with my time and got a lot more tasks and aims completed than when I was on Facebook.
Taking some time to detach from social media and our phones can really help us in making more from our time, changing how we perceive ourselves and the world around us whilst also giving us time to enhance relationships that matter most to us.
Altering our relationships with our digital selves and social media tools
Social media used in the right way can enhance your life but it can easily spiral into a negative habit if overused, or if you feel your life isn’t heading it the direction that you hoped , it can bring on negative connotations.
Learning how to make social media enhance your life and not damage it is something that we should be learning to incorporate into our lives.
So to re-iterate the 10 points that we believe can enhance your relationship with social media is : –
- Declutter your ‘friends’, don’t be friends with random people or those you don’t interact with anymore.
- What you see on social media channels is usually the best version of that person and not a real balanced view of peoples lives.
- Connect with business and people that truly make you feel good about life.
- Stop comparing yourself we all start off with different backgrounds and have varying achievements in our own rights.
- Don’t follow conspiracy theorists, it only makes you angry.
- Turn off notifications from people who’s posts don’t resonate with you.
- Reduce notifications
- Disconnect from social media at least half hour before and after sleeping.
- Do use social media to express yourself and connect to like minds
- Sometimes choose to have no digital access for 24 hours once a month or challenge yourself to a week without social media.
Social media has enhanced our lives but if we become more conscious of the positive and negatives of these tools to learn how to use these tools to make our lives healthier and happier