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Rob Oglesby

School Holiday Survival Guide

Life Experience,Motivation,Relationships

Date : July 11, 2016Comments : 0

With the annual school holidays looming, many parents, grandparents and carers the world over will be anticipating the children breaking up from school and the added busyness that that brings.  Are you looking to the holidays with eagerness or bracing yourself for a stressful time?

Planning Is Key

Some stresses can be avoided.  Many people plan their finances so that the stress of not having enough to make ends meet is one they avoid.  Other stresses, such as an interview for a new job, cannot be avoided, and so are best met head on, with preparation.  School holidays and times when the family is together more are no exception.  Here, I would suggest that following a few basic principles can make the difference between a generally happy home and one where the stress can become distress.

  • Don’t Try To Cram Too Much In

    • Just as adults need ‘down time’, children require time to relax and wind down from their busy school lives, to change gear from the Monday to Friday rush and to ease into the holidays. Activities are undoubtedly a fun and enjoyable part of any holiday period, yet learning to be a human being and not simply a human doing is invaluable.  TV time, in moderation, is healthy and normal – give yourself permission to allow this!
  • Have A ‘Plan B’

    • When the clouds break, the rain comes down and the trip to the park is definitely off, make sure you have something up your sleeve to fall back on. Planning for different eventualities is the psychological equivalent of not ‘putting all your eggs in one basket’.  Anxieties about how the holidays are going to run can be calmed by making sure you feel in control of events to some degree.  If you ever get the opportunity to speak to a professional child minder, ask them about perhaps little known local attractions and events for children – after all, that is their line of work!
  • Learn To Laugh It Off

    • Children often take their cue from the adults they are with, and so if you interpret some unplanned happening as a disaster, so will they. Their mood may be harder to recover even when you are over the shock of the unforeseen event, and so learning to laugh at the unexpected and shrug your shoulders philosophically may mean your children will follow your lead.  So, the cinema showing ended at 2:30 p.m., not started?  Laugh it off – it’s an experience!

Isn’t it?

Throwing children back on their own resources (i.e. telling them to go and play instead of providing them with entertainment all the time), will help them learn independence and resilience.  It will also give you time to look after your own needs and get a bit of ‘me’ time.  After all, it’s your holiday too, isn’t it?  🙂




~ Rob Oglesby MBACP B.A. (Hons) BSc | Ashwood Therapy

 

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Author Name : Rob Oglesby

Rob Oglesby MBACP is a fully qualified and insured therapeutic counsellor who is a registered member of the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP). He is a member of the executive committee for the Association for Counselling and Therapy Online (ACTO), and is involved in the development and furthering of online counselling provision here in the U.K. Rob has extensive experience working alongside clients facing mental wellbeing issues such as depression and anxiety, and is experienced in supporting those facing bereavement, particularly after the death of a child or young person. Ashwood Therapy is Rob's private counselling practice in which he offers exclusively online therapy via secure video call, encrypted email and live instant messaging. He has a keen interest in technology and how this impacts on the therapeutic relationship, and aims to improve access to counselling for those who may be unable to attend a consulting room in person due to other commitments or disability. Rob writes weekly of his reflections on the world of therapy, and invites contact from people interested in wellbeing issues though his Twitter and Facebook accounts.

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